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Mar. 3rd, 2004 09:15 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
mrlichSo a thought occurred to me the other day. It's proof that there's something between my ears. What? There are those who are disbelievers...
Anyway. I was thinking that people don't give enough credit sometimes. Sometimes? No - that's not right. Not when it really matters. Of course that could be because it's hard to give enough credit and for something important without it sounded cheesy or forced.
Which is the reason for this post.
To give proper credit... not to sound cheesy or forced.
My folks are the best. They will probably never read this, and that's probably for the best because I don't think it would be cause for a 'comfortable moment' in the Patch household.
They've never really pushed me into anything. Not in as long as I can remember. Oh sure, they pushed me, but it was always something for my benefit. I can't think of a single instance where they tried to get me to do something to make them look good or to benefit them solely. I don't think that's common today.
While I don't think that this is commonplace, I also don't think that it's quite enough to call for excessive praise either. It's the parent thing... or well... at least it's part of the parent thing.
But here's the thing. They're my parents. That makes them big points. Large. I don't mean just in my book (though they certainly get it there) - they also deserve it in anyone's book. Anyone who's keeping track at any rate. Why? well... I've pointed out that they never push me into things that they want right? What makes this impressive is that I do push. I always have. I push a lot.
Now, I don't want to give the wrong impression here - they're no pushovers. They just seem to take whatever 'pushing' I have to give, wait, and then - one everyone is calmed down, they offer advice.
I think that's the key to being a good parent. Giving advice, and making certain to not make it a demand. At least not most of the time.
Example: I'm not what you might call a huge success at this point in my life. I'm doing better than ever before, but I am 31 and living with Mom and Dad. Why you ask? They're letting me live here rent free in order to save money for down payment on a house of my own.
They're not what you could call wealthy folks.
Example: I can sense that my Dad is 'chomping at the bit' for me to accomplish certain things in the near future. I'm just not. I won't bore you with the details of why. But here's the important point: Instead of blowing his cork and causing a fight (which would probably be just) he found another way to satisfy both of us. He asked me if I wanted to 'do some physical labor' and help him with the clearing of some underbrush on the property. I agreed. I was accomplishing something, which satisfied him, and I got to do something other than the thing that I didn't want to do.
I'm sore as hell today, but it was worth it. What's more, it's been a long time since I got to work side-by-side with him like that. I've missed it.
It's good to be Home.
Anyway. I was thinking that people don't give enough credit sometimes. Sometimes? No - that's not right. Not when it really matters. Of course that could be because it's hard to give enough credit and for something important without it sounded cheesy or forced.
Which is the reason for this post.
To give proper credit... not to sound cheesy or forced.
My folks are the best. They will probably never read this, and that's probably for the best because I don't think it would be cause for a 'comfortable moment' in the Patch household.
They've never really pushed me into anything. Not in as long as I can remember. Oh sure, they pushed me, but it was always something for my benefit. I can't think of a single instance where they tried to get me to do something to make them look good or to benefit them solely. I don't think that's common today.
While I don't think that this is commonplace, I also don't think that it's quite enough to call for excessive praise either. It's the parent thing... or well... at least it's part of the parent thing.
But here's the thing. They're my parents. That makes them big points. Large. I don't mean just in my book (though they certainly get it there) - they also deserve it in anyone's book. Anyone who's keeping track at any rate. Why? well... I've pointed out that they never push me into things that they want right? What makes this impressive is that I do push. I always have. I push a lot.
Now, I don't want to give the wrong impression here - they're no pushovers. They just seem to take whatever 'pushing' I have to give, wait, and then - one everyone is calmed down, they offer advice.
I think that's the key to being a good parent. Giving advice, and making certain to not make it a demand. At least not most of the time.
Example: I'm not what you might call a huge success at this point in my life. I'm doing better than ever before, but I am 31 and living with Mom and Dad. Why you ask? They're letting me live here rent free in order to save money for down payment on a house of my own.
They're not what you could call wealthy folks.
Example: I can sense that my Dad is 'chomping at the bit' for me to accomplish certain things in the near future. I'm just not. I won't bore you with the details of why. But here's the important point: Instead of blowing his cork and causing a fight (which would probably be just) he found another way to satisfy both of us. He asked me if I wanted to 'do some physical labor' and help him with the clearing of some underbrush on the property. I agreed. I was accomplishing something, which satisfied him, and I got to do something other than the thing that I didn't want to do.
I'm sore as hell today, but it was worth it. What's more, it's been a long time since I got to work side-by-side with him like that. I've missed it.
It's good to be Home.
