mrlich

We know our friends and family have some questions about our breakup, so we wrote this together to explain some stuff. It will be posted on both of our journals.

The details of our breakup are naturally very personal, but we thought we owed everyone some kind of an explanation. We also wanted to give you ideas on how you can help.

First and foremost: We are still friends. This isn't "friends" in the polite, cordial sense; we love each other tremendously and we still dig hanging out together.

Nobody did anything wrong. Nobody threw lamps, nobody cheated, nobody kicked the dog, nobody was neglecting the other one, nobody left the milk out, nobody was/is an asshole/crazy. This was a "core differences" issue, and not a reactionary thing.
Jill came to this decision mindfully, thoughtfully, and after eons of loving, difficult consideration. This was not hasty. We then both discussed it and this seems like the right course.

We are still friends on Facebook and on LJ, we still send each other dorky text messages and links, we still hug a lot. We will continue to help each other out and look out for the other.

There is no need for anyone to choose sides, overthink social invitations, or anything like that.
There is no need to exclude either of us from an event. Please continue to invite us to whatever you normally would. We both are active members of Philadel and there's no reason for that to change.
If there is a social event where we feel it would be odd for us both to attend, we will make that decision between us.

If you see one of us at a movie or something with someone else, it is cool. No need to report it back.

Logistics:
We figure you're curious about the living-situation logistics (heh, so are we), so here theyz is:

Matt is moving out of the house on Friday. He'll be living at Mark's for a few weeks which gives Matt the opportunity to find the right apartment (versus the fastest apartment) during that time.

Jill is going to try to keep the house (assuming a refi makes the payments reasonable). She hopes to not have a roommate, but she will be open to the option down the road depending on how business goes.
We're still figuring out who wants the car and what Jill is going to do about health insurance. We're exploring our options.

How you can help:

If you have questions (awkward, logistical, or otherwise), please ask one of us, and not each other. :-)

The best way you can be a good friend is to not speculate, gossip or choose sides. We will not be dishing dirt, so please don't ask. We will come to you if we need to.

You don't have to delete/untag any Facebook photos of us together or anything. We are proud of what we were.

We are 100% committed to zero drama, both for our new relationship and for our relationship with our awesome friends and family. We will keep any awkwardness to ourselves.

We are realistic and we know this will require major holy-crap levels of adjustment for us. We know it is not going to be easy, but we're ready for the challenge.

The overwhelming outpouring of support from all of you has made this much easier for both of us. It does us a lot of good to know that we have such amazing people who want to help see us through this.

So, thanks, troops. We love you, and we really, really appreciate your love, support, and good ju-ju.

Love, Matt and Jill